Eleven :: Tough as Steel

There are three things extremely hard:

steel, a diamond, and to know one’s self.

Benjamin Franklin
This is my husband.  Preparing for his Children’s Sermon at the Kid’s Christmas Eve service.  Duct tape is useful for all tasks, including attaching a “happy light” as a necklace.
This is how is looked in actuality…
Does he look like a Man of Steel?!?
He DOES have a Superman t-shirt in his closet….
Not sure STEEL is the perfect description, but strong, yes.
Matt’s known for being the sappy one between the two of us.  As I have mentioned here previously, he was the one that cried at our wedding and in the midst of giving many-a-sermon.
Those tears are endearing to me.
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Why am I waxing poetic over Matt?  I try not to talk about him too much here.  He’s not too into public stories and focus being put on him.
{although preaching each week might be the exception}
Today marks 11 years since this…
(posted last year on Instagram)
And in official Miss Manner’s terms…it’s all about steel this year.
So I did some research on steel.
Steel is strong and doesn’t cost a lot.
 It can harden and prevent dislocations.
How do you connect that to marriage?!?
It’s strong?
Yes…but not costing a lot?
Not feeling that one.  Marriage does cost a lot.  It isn’t easy and man alive, we have a ways to go.  So much to learn and practice.  Lucky Us!
We can and do “harden”, hoping it prevents emotional dislocations.
Isn’t that the way of relationship?
“If I just grit my teeth, grin and bear it,
we’ll push our way through?!”
The more I see this approach play out, though, I’m convinced it isn’t so productive.
Maybe, as Anne Hillman wonders, it is more about “permeable aliveness” vs. old choices and clear-cut answers.
Possibly old ways need to die so that something new can be born?
Perhaps (ya think?!?) vulnerability is at the root of this “new way”?
Learning to Love and Look with Uncertainty?!
Yes.  Yup.  Yessiree Bob.
This year, we will celebrate 11 years.
I am in major purging mode, so every gift idea keeps getting shot down in my own head.
We loved sipping Moscow Mules this summer, so I pondered splurging on the special STEEL hammered mugs we saw recently downtown.
{Inkwell, you slay me everytime.  Corvallis locals, you know what I’m saying!}
I thought it could be fun, dramatic.
Maybe slip in a tasty Vodka, a lime and Trader Joes’ amazing new ginger beer?!
Those glasses are one more thing to store and we really had no trouble enjoying MANY a Moscow Mule last summer in our normal everyday glasses.
Specialty glasses for every drink?  Not thinking that’s necessary.
So, I’m “settling” for dinner out after a (no doubt) busy day with the boys.
Maybe we can hold an entire conversation.
Complete thoughts and sentences.
Think a bit about the year ahead and what it means to know oneself (thanks, President Franklin) and reflect a bit on true strength with my Man of Steel.
Happy 11th, Matty!
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Previous Anniversary Posts:
(and Palm Springs 10 Year Anniversary trip here)

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